Podcast Title: Stop Overgiving, You Can’t Buy Love

Intro
Welcome back to the podcast, where we stop confusing exhaustion with devotion. Today’s message is direct and overdue. Stop overgiving. You cannot buy love. Not with time, not with money, not with emotional labor, and definitely not with self sacrifice.

Love is not a rewards program. There are no bonus points for suffering.

Segment 1, What Overgiving Really Is
Overgiving is not generosity. It is self abandonment dressed up as kindness. It looks like always being available, always understanding, always forgiving, and always giving more than you receive.

You give hoping it will make someone stay. You give hoping it will make them choose you. You give hoping it will finally be enough.

But here is the reality. Love does not grow from imbalance. It grows from reciprocity.

Segment 2, Why We Try to Buy Love
Many of us learned early that love had to be earned. Be useful. Be quiet. Be impressive. Be indispensable. Overgiving becomes a survival strategy.

So we pay in effort. We pay in patience. We pay in emotional labor. We cover gaps the other person refuses to fill.

But love is not a transaction. If someone only values you for what you provide, they are not loving you. They are consuming you.

Segment 3, The Cost of Overgiving
Overgiving drains clarity. You start negotiating your boundaries. You excuse behavior that hurts you. You shrink your needs so the connection can survive.

That is not love surviving. That is you disappearing.

Healthy love does not require you to empty yourself to be worthy. It requires you to be present, not depleted.

Quick reality check with a smile, if you are exhausted, resentful, and anxious, congratulations, you are not in love, you are in unpaid labor.

Segment 4, The Call to Action
Give where you are met. Invest where there is return. Stop trying to compensate for someone else’s lack of effort with your excess.

Pull your energy back. Watch what happens. The right people step up. The wrong ones step out. Both outcomes are wins.

Outro
Stop overgiving. You cannot buy love. Love is not persuaded by sacrifice. It is sustained by mutual care, respect, and choice.

Choose balance. Choose dignity. And remember, love that is real never sends you an invoice for being yourself.